Do you know someone who always has to have the last word?

passaggio February 28, 2015
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Do you know someone who always has to have the last word?

I do enjoy reading people’s comments to blogs and postings on here. I have learned a lot from what others have said. I am always impressed on the knowledge that is on this site. It is great to listen to what people are willing to share. I love history,so I am always interested in hearing about where someone has come from, and the struggles their families had along the way. We all come from such different walks of life.
We come from different cultures, different countries. We come from small country towns, to big cities and places in between. No matter where we come from, there is always someone that feels they know everything. They always have to have the last word…throwing in their 2 cents so to speak. Those people feel like they are the authority on any topic. Have you come across someone like this? Does knowledge and education cause this? Or does it come from someone who reads about everything, so it MUST make them the expert? Does it come from having a huge ego?
I think if more people would just listen without saying, they may learn even more.
Listening is becoming a lost art. We are all so eager to give advice, or to tell someone what we think . Have you ever just listened without saying anything?

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  4. waylander February 28, 2015

    There is a wealth of knowledge and experience on this site. How could there not be given our collective ages?

    To my mind, listening is the greatest art. No matter how much you know there is always more to learn.

    To quote a Bernard Cornwell book “We have 2 ears but only one mouth, therefore we should listen twice as much as we shout”

  7. Unknown Member February 28, 2015

    Hope this is not the last word…..
    I love to read what everyone has to say , sometimes post a comment i feel is to my understanding …
    Ego, yes some , so much we learn every day just reading what everyone who participates has to say ,there is such a wealth of knowledge here i feel personalities can be overlooked , the way I look at it is that what we say if we know what we are talking about is not to be a know it all , but that if we dont know what we are talking about , and say it anyway , that is Ego …..
    Every day in every way I learn something new …… good post….Passy…

  8. roseinbloom February 28, 2015

    Passaggio, If one is listening, someone must be speaking. This is a chat site. For all those who enjoy listening, someone must be talking. People need to to do a fairly equal amount of talking and listeningto have a good chat. I love to hear from others and also feel an obligation to have something to say. I write blogs and I love others opinions.
    Have I ever listened without saying anything? yes, when I have nothing to say on the subject or when it is in a tone I don’t like, but it is usually rare.
    Do people have big egos that talk. Probably. Do they know a lot? It depends on the nature of their conversation. Everybody is an expert on himself, but if he can talk on many subjects, then he knows quite a bit.

    1. passaggio February 28, 2015

      Thank you bloom for your perspective. I still feel, that we don’t always need to have something to say, even when someone is talking. It is refreshing to just sit back and listen.

  12. Unknown Member February 28, 2015

    I’ve heard the term ‘Expert’ used frequently on this blog. Whenever i have the misfortune to come across somebody who thinks he/she knows it all, i remember an old saying; ‘Ex ‘ is something that has been, and ‘Spurt’ is a drip under pressure. Nobody, not one living soul, knows it all, we all learn from each other as life goes on. Good blog Pass.

  13. macathy March 1, 2015

    There will always be someone who thinks they know everything,and will always tell you.me I like to listen a lot.Have the last word not worried about it at all.am I last ???

      1. Blush March 2, 2015

        Good Blog Pass……. and I enjoyed reading all the comments as well. But….. hehehehe….. I decided to put my comment in the middle somewhere…. There is also another quote I have seen around…… “Some people like to get the Last Word First”. That’s not me of course. Thank for a thought provoking blog. 🙂

  15. starlette March 1, 2015

    Well !!!……..being as you ask yes I do lol……….now if I don’t know much about a subject that someone is talking about I will say I really don’t know much about this, but i am very interested in what you have to say……..listen and learn…….bit silly to pretend you have knowledge about something when you don’t…….but yes I do know people who have to have the last word no matter how stupid it is……my way of thinking is they have a problem with low self esteem, and this is one of the ways they can bring themselves to the forefront and make themselves feel more important………xx

  16. millie March 1, 2015

    Yes, I think we all know of some who are boorish and tend to go on about their own opinion all the time. But sometimes when the sheep are all falling in line, I think it takes a special person to be brave enough to voice a different perspective and maybe shake them up and shed some light on the situation. No matter what the discussion, it’s not easy to “go against the flow” per se, and say, “hey, I maybe don’t see this the same way you do, and here’s how I do see it”…. Yes, listening is important, but once you’ve listened and assessed, I think it’s important to speak out. Maybe you’ll have a perspective that someone hasn’t yet thought of… or maybe you’ll voice something that others might have been too shy or intimidated to say. It is a chat site, as some have said that’s what we are all here for. Thanks for the blog 🙂

    1. roseinbloom March 1, 2015

      Millie, you express yourself so well, I think you cold do a blog of your own. We seniors need to share what we do know, information is piling up so fast, none of us are experts, and we all need to share what we do know.

    2. Unknown Member March 2, 2015

      Great post Millie. It is intriguing how (as passaggio says ) some seem to know everything. Not sure I follow the listening and not speaking part though. If everyone listened no one would be speaking. I have found on many instances your opinion or advice is welcomed just as long as it is soothing or agreeable.
      However if your opinion doesn’t (fit the mold) you or your opinion aren’t accepted very well. As far as the last word, hmm who really decides who has the last word? Some reply to blogs in unique ways. They either get their message across by directly replying or they reply by writing blogs. It isn’t popular these days to object or speak truth. Most see disagreeing or standing for a value as hate. We actually need more who think as individuals and will have a backbone to speak out and not be intimidated by the masses. Yes we should listen. We also should speak. This is a (chat) site. If no one speaks it’d be a blank screen. That’s just me…(“.throwing in their 2 cents so to speak.”)

      1. millie March 2, 2015

        That’s always been the way, Jsmile. Opinions are only welcome if they’re politically correct. That’s why it takes a brave person to speak an unpopular opinion and to say it in a way that shows respect and fairness. Happy to see that this is still allowed in some countries and as long as it is I’ll join you in exercising that right 🙂

        1. passaggio March 2, 2015

          Go for it Millie. I never thought my blog would cause any unrest , as to what is politically correct. I was just pondering a question….and it
          appears it has hit a nerve with some people…Interesting…

      2. passaggio March 2, 2015

        Thanks Jsmile. I am not sure why you couldn’t write this at the end of the blog, instead of sliding this in the middle?? Did you not want to have the last word??? 😉 😉 Thank you for your 2 cents…they are sure adding up! hahaha 😉

    3. passaggio March 2, 2015

      Thank you Millie. I agree with you about once you listen and assess what has been said, it is important to speak out. I am not sure if that is what I meant by my blog. I think what I was trying to say, is there are many who think they know everything…and the fact of the matter is….they really don’t…it is just their perspective…which means, does it make their perspective the right one??

      1. millie March 3, 2015

        Of course not.. that’s what keeps debate interesting, the exchange of ideas. And, I’m not sure we can know that anyone thinks they know everything. Maybe some people just have opinions about a lot of different things and esp. some of these ‘hot topics’ and do feel the need to express them – even when they’re unpopular. I admire that 🙂

      2. roseinbloom March 3, 2015

        Sometimes, many times, it is not a matter of who is right or who is wrong. It is just putting out opinions so people can see different ideas. When we say some one acts like they know it all, should we not challenge their facts or opinions rather than attacking the person.
        I try to encourage people to feel free to say what they will. I try but may not succeed as well as I would like.

  25. Unknown Member September 21, 2015

    OMG, hate to bump this up; no, I don’t want the last word. But, I just realized that I have a friend who drives me up the wall because he has to have the last word. He also thinks he knows it all. My husband and I met him in Georgia when while my stepson was stationed there. He is definitely one of a kind.

    I am still in touch with this person because we belong to a chat group that has been in existence for years.

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